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Steamy Recs November 2023

Hi Wild Ones! I read and watched some fun ones this month. And wound up thinking about consent and how consent was portrayed during each and every one of them, and all for different reasons. It was a very thoughtful month.

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Book Boyfriend by Kris Ripper

Amazon (print, audiobook, and ebook)* ~ Apple (ebook, audiobook) ~ Barnes & Noble (ebook, audiobook, and print) ~ Chirp Audiobook ~ Google (ebook and audiobook) ~ Kobo (ebook and audiobook)

I really enjoyed the writing and authorship parts of this story. It’s always fun to see the process of writing explored in fiction, and this story was no exception. I also enjoyed the main character pining for the other character. So much tension about what would happen! It was a fun read overall, but it had a very unexpected angle, one that involved a serious discussion about consent and how that gets handled within a relationship. I won’t say too much because I don’t want to spoil anything, but it did make me think about some of the ways we approach romance in popular media.

His Human Rebel by Renee Rose

Amazon (print, audiobook, and ebook)* ~ Apple (ebook) ~ Barnes & Noble (ebook and print) ~ Google (ebook) ~ Kobo (ebook)

This is book 4 of the Zandian Masters series, which deals with alien masters and human slaves in an alien galaxy. That premise obviously plays a lot with consent, and it does so in a way I like. Lots of readers like the kind of possessive alpha male that loves and punishes his woman as he sees fit. I like that books like Book Boyfriend exist to talk about the realities of healthy relationships in real life, while there are also books like His Human Rebel that can push my buttons in a safe way when I want that. There’s a place for both, as long as the reader has a good understanding of what’s healthy in real life.

Heartstopper Season 2

Netflix Original Video

Just like the first season, there was lots of fluffy twee queer romance of all kinds. I love these characters, and their friendships and their loves. It was a fun season overall.

SPOILERS! But this season also has a lot to say about trauma and consent issues. There are multiple instances of our main group actively excluding people from their lives who have hurt or traumatized them in the past, even when the offending party apologized for their actions.

The characters chose to keep their spaces safe from those people because they weren’t over the trauma and didn’t want to be around the others.

It was so unexpected and different from the typical narrative of what we’re taught (don’t make a scene, and if the other person apologizes you have to forgive and move on so that everyone can be friends) that it took me by surprise. It felt uncomfortable to me at first, wrong.

So I thought about why that was. And then I realized what the show was doing: it was actively modeling healthy boundaries in a way I don’t think I’ve seen before on TV. At least, not exactly in that way, not in a show about teenagers that’s probably aimed mostly at teenagers (though adults can definitely enjoy it). Most shows would have had the group forgive the past bullies and invite them in, and everyone would be friends. That’s what I expected, but why should trauma victims feel pressured to forgive and befriend their bullies? The show is educating through demonstration. It took me by surprise, but it’s wonderful to see.

What have you read and watched this month? Hit reply and let me know if you have something fantastic!

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