Hi, Wild Ones! Looking for a kinky gift for a special partner this holiday season but not sure what to get? I’ve got you covered! I polled my mailing list, Facebook, Tumblr, and FetLife to see what the Top 5 best kinky gifts are. Read on to see what you kinksters are into!
5 – Bondage Gear
Bondage is such a fun part of many people’s kinky play. Here are two suggestions to get into it if you’re new.
Under-Bed Restraints – these fit under your mattress for a secure fit with no installation. The cuffs are also soft and easy on the skin.
Neck to Wrist Cuffs – these are great if you like the feeling of a collar around your neck and your hands restrained behind you. Remember no pulling on the strap – that makes it pull on the neck! But if you’re careful these can be a lot of fun. It would pair well with the next item!
4 – Liberator Shapes
The original wedge and ramp combo is the recommendation, but there are lots to choose from. If you’re not familiar with Liberator shapes, they’re angled cushions that you can use during sex to make different positions more comfortable. They’re perfect for facilitating all sorts of positions and activities as we age. Or for those who have joint or mobility issues that make holding positions for longer periods difficult. Learn more at the Liberator website.
They even have a whole line of Bondage Shapes with cuffs attached to them! They look hella fun.
3 – Bondage Rope
Next up is bondage rope. You Wild Ones sure love your Shibari. One of you even got hand-processed hemp rope from Romania! If you’re itching to tie up your partner but can’t get rope from Romania, check out Twisted Monk for lots of rope variety.
Not sure what to do with your rope once you have it? They have How-To videos!
And I have a little bit more about rope over at this blog post, including some excellent and in-depth tutorials.
2 – How-To Books
Speaking of educating yourself, lots of you mentioned educational books. I love this because knowledge is power, and it’s essential for playing safely.
Spanking books were top of the list, including these books for how to get and give a spanking by Vivian.
And The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book were also popular choices.
Regardless of what area of BDSM you’re into there’s probably a good book (or video) out there for it. Find it and read it – better yet, find several to make sure you’re getting the full spectrum of advice. And play safely!
1 – Vibrators
By far the winner of the whole poll. You sure love to vibe with your kinky fun! The classic Rabbit vibrator wins out when talking about vibrating toys. Can’t beat that design! Specifically the The We-Vibe Jive Wearable G-Spot Vibe was popular, for control from a distance. Great for D/s play.
And check out this article for a rundown on the 10 Best Rabbit Vibrators of 2024 for even more selection!
So that’s it – some great ideas for kinky play with your partner(s) this season. Hope this helps make your shopping easier. And feel free to drop a comment with something else if you have a great suggestion!